Saturday, August 14, 2010

Love isn't hard, it's a choice - Day FOUR


Good Morning Sleepy Head
It's Day 4 of my thirty day journal... today I'm going to share my....


Day 1 - Your Favorite Song

Day 2 - Your Favorite Movie
Day 3 - Your Favorite Television Program
Day 4 - Your Favorite Book
Day 5 - Your Favorite Quote
Day 6 - 20 of my favorite things
Day 7 - A photo that makes you happy
Day 8 - A photo that makes you angry/sad
Day 9 - A photo you took
Day 10 - A photo taken over 10 years ago of you
Day 11 - A photo of you recently
Day 12 - Something you are OCD about
Day 13 - A fictional book
Day 14 - A non-fictional book
Day 15 - your dream house
Day 16 - A song that makes you cry (or nearly)
Day 17 - An art piece (drawing, sculpture, painting, etc)
Day 18 - My wedding/future wedding/past wedding
Day 19 - A talent of yours
Day 20 - A hobby of yours
Day 21 - A recipe
Day 22 - A website
Day 23 - A YouTube video
Day 24 - Where I live
Day 25 - Your day, in great detail
Day 26 - Your week, in great detail
Day 27 - My worst habit
Day 28 - Whats in my handbag/purse
Day 29 - Hopes,Dreams and plans for the next 365 days
Day 30 - A dream for the future


I'm not a big reader. Never have been. But, about a year ago I felt overwhelmed in my relationship and thought I needed time to clear my head... was I where I needed to be?   With Aaron that is.... So I left him. I've always dreamed of living in a neighbor hood with sidewalks... Aaron wants to live on an open field with LOTS of land.. All of this Crazy stuff was going through this crazy brain of mine. Although, on our "break" we talked & text ed everyday & saw each other a few times a week... Not really a break. Anyway, I'll make this short. In my 9.5 relationship, We've had our Baby Don't Leaves - I'll never do it again... and turn arounds through our growing stages.... The finger was always pointed at him. I listened to other people and so did he... Mistake! Whoever said growing up & growing together and making it work was supposed to be easy [and LOTS of people told us that] was wrong. Most people find their partner when they have defined themselves as a person. Not us, We've had to do this [& it's been hard] but we had to learn to grow as ONE. Love isn't hard, it's a choice. We both let other people get in our heads and make our decisions. A relationship is only hard when you don't FULLY respect your partner. I didn't. And that's what this book taught me..... We were already back together and said this was it... no turn arounds or run aways, but God sent me an Angel, one of my dearest friends who was struggling in her marriage and she gave this book to me.

The BEST thing I ever did for my relationship, was read this book! I was in the wrong the whole time, because I didn't accept & appreciate Aaron 100%. I read different chapters every week. Over & Over & Over again...
Since then, in our 9.5 relationship, I can 100% honestly say we are soild & devoted to each other. Something happened between that time... God! I let him in our relationship. People laugh and question why we aren't married yet. After ten years, I would leave... or Why aren't you married is what they say to me everyday. Well, if we would've gotten married 4 years ago, 3 years ago, 2 years ago or even 1 year ago... We would not have our soild foundation. We'd be a struggling married couple! Yikes! So, I will believe in this book & believe in God & pass it down to my great grandchildren when I grow old! Read it! & Yes, if you are wondering... Aaron does know I read it, and still read it! :D












3 comments:

*Maybe* Baby ♥ Mama said...

Our journey has begun!… secretly though

If I’ve left you this message, you’re a follower of my original blog ~OR~ just someone I’ve happened upon while sending out these invites and that I would LOVE for to come along for the ride! Though I won’t be revealing who I am just yet – until we’re TO and THROUGH the first trimester! Just getting the word out about our new site – further explanation of all the secrecy and what we’re about on my first post. I’d love for you to stop by.

Exciting things going on around here!

www.DefinitelyMaybeBaby.com

~ the {secret} *Maybe* Baby Mama

brae&joey said...

I just bought that book because so many people were telling me GOOD things about it! I cant wait to read it!

Karen Mortensen said...

Good for you guys. It does take work and it is good that you were willing to do it.
Never be ashamed or embarassed that God is in your life. That is the best person to have in it.